“Mom, I need to tell you something.”
I looked up from my book to see my daughter, 15-year-old Melati, standing at the door, looking anxious.
“Sure, what’s up?” I said, hiding my concern.
“My friends and I have been smoking weeds,” she continued, her face flushed with shame. “We only do it on the weekends, mother. And not every weekend. But I don’t want to hide it anymore. “
The relief overwhelmed me, followed by sadness. I listened to my son almost in his own right: a great homechool who attended college classes, kept a job, played bass in a band, and did business, while explaining how his gang of friends gathered under the stars to Act. a kind of ritual together, which included smoking cannabis, almost like a sacrament. Once under his influence, they talked about their feelings and creative ideas, played games and music, and had fun.
“I’m glad you told me that,” I said, and we had a long conversation about cannabis and what science has to say about its impact on the brains of still-developing teens and about moderate use. and responsible for certain mind-altering substances.
The thing is, Melati knew I myself was using cannabis to treat a serious state of health. But it was years before it was legalized for recreational use for adults in California, and except within discreet cannabis-friendly circles, weed consumption just for fun still carried a social (and legal) stigma. My heart ached to see the shame of my teenage daughter. If cannabis, which is used carefully, can improve pleasure, health, and creativity, how can this kind of goodness be a crime?
A pro-cannabis era
Mary, Mary, how times have changed. Adults from more than a dozen states can now stop by entire candy stores filled with tasty varieties of marijuana and a dizzying galaxy of produce. The science of cannabis therapy is finally taken seriously, with a result that the cannabinoid CBD it is now legal in all states. But there is a lot of news to do in this new era in favor of banning cannabis after the ban. New weed users, especially breasts with families to care for, may be overwhelmed by curiosity, anxiety, and questions.
How do I get started? Where do I buy quality cannabis and what type of product should I try? Should I use cannabis around my children? What should I do if I find out my teens are involved? It would help my grass PMS? What about sex? And how can I talk about it with my children, my partner, other mothers, and my parents?
To help answer these questions and more, we have it Weed Mother, a new book by Danielle Simone Brand. Spending an afternoon with Weed Mother it’s like spending time with a trendy mom friend, who speaks fluently the language and land of a wonderful place you’ve often heard about and always wanted to visit. Weed MotherThe goal is to help moms – no, families – in making healthy and informed decisions about the role of cannabis in their lives.
The book’s prologue is a simple letter from Dear John written by Brand, not to an ex-boyfriend, but to Alcohol. With brutal honesty, she lists all the ways this unreliable companion of many years had let her down and bluntly informs Alcohol that she has found a better partner: in cannabis.
But it is in the first chapter where the emotional flesh of the book is put on the table. We see that Brand leaves her husband to – yes – a cannabis addiction recovery treatment program.
“Maybe you thought this guide was a direct love story about cannabis,” he says, “and that would be a good guess. But my weed story is a little more complex than that, and to show you how I came to love the plant, first I have to tell you how and why I hated it ”.
She continues. “I hated that something that everyone seemed to think was harmless or that I could only do good had taken my husband’s brain (already prone to dark, twisted twists) and fucked him so badly. I had seen this substance erode the. my husband’s self-esteem and deep dark scratches into her body and psyche.When I said goodbye to my husband and walked away from the rehab center, where I would spend the next five weeks, my only thought was, ‘ I hope this works. ‘
The fact that Brand becomes one of the most knowledgeable and ardent weed crusaders is a story he will have to follow in the book, but he has been to hell and his back (with a cannabis-mounted shotgun) makes the his wisdom is even more gained and reliable. This is an honest and apologetic book for real women.
“When I consume responsibly, I’m not a different person or a chemically forged supermom,” Brand says. “What I am is a less daring version of me. A scarier, more grateful and, frankly, more exciting version: like the self of a universe just a click away, a self that doesn’t stress nearly as much about things that don’t really require stress. ”.
Under the tone of the girlfriend’s girlfriend, there’s a mom who knows her shit (by the way, every now and then Brand throws irresponsible irony, so I thought it would stay the same). The book is deeply researched and structured to build our knowledge about layered cannabis. Brand first lays the groundwork for an intensive course in cannabinoid science. It then analyzes the fascinating social and political history of cannabis through the centuries, up to and including its current state and federal legal status, and then traces us back to the investigation of common conditions treated with cannabis therapies. Recently equipped with weed ribs, we are now ready to play the game Five W’s of Weed: Why, what, where, when and with whom, with useful tips on the pros and cons of flowers compared to extracts and edibles , how to find other ganja-loving mothers and how weeds can help make sex a busy thing, tired moms want to spend time.
Along the way, Brand is weaving comments from respected experts and activists, anecdotes from other weed mothers, and best of all, her own personal experience, which she crafted with such openness and compassion that I felt deeply moved reading her story.
It also addresses an issue that is not often discussed in cannabis circles: the negative attitudes and legal consequences that women of color are most often subjected to in the cannabis space, due to deep-rooted racial and economic disparities. Brand describes how, even in California, in favor of weeds, black mothers report that police harassed them for being legally released in their own gardens or that glances were seen while shopping at dispensaries located in affluent white neighborhoods. Even more troubling is the proportionately higher number of women of color serving long prison sentences for cannabis-related crimes.
Brand offers simple tips on how to talk about weeds to kids, from everyone (this is her mother’s medicine that helps her feel better) to adolescents, when the best bet is to “choose honesty about cannabis and other drugs in the degree of detail for which they are prepared, not relying on the falsity of fear or threats of punishment, but explaining them what science says about young brains and cannabis. “
The brand continues. “Because we don’t just teach them about cannabis for the health and safety of our children. When they know the complex social and political history of the plant, when they acquire the skills needed to think critically about politics, governance, and social justice, they will become better citizens. Best political leaders. Best entrepreneurs. Best environmentalists. Better people. “
The brand is not far from discussing side effects, risks, inconveniences, safety issues, harm reduction and cannabis use disorder. She explains what can help you if you are too tall or how to recognize if you have an addiction problem, especially when it comes to the possible negative impacts of cannabis on your children or your ability to lead a healthy, productive life. Brand loves cannabis, but it’s not a couch slack. She likes to do shit and I guess so do you.
Sometimes Brand tries to fit in so much useful information that the book can feel overwhelmed, with a few long paragraphs, passages, and anecdotes that might have used a little thoughtful reflection. But if the goal is to arm mothers with enough knowledge of cannabis to help them make informed decisions, it succeeds.
The deepest gift included in this book is how Brand celebrates mothers. She knows our struggle. She knows how difficult it is for moms to sculpt time and space to relax, rest, be in the moment. He states, pleasure is our human right. The desire to consciously participate in a plant that can benefit us — and, by association, our families — is not only something we should not be ashamed of, but we should claim as our own.
“In my opinion,” says Brand, “there’s nothing inherently wrong with trying to alter your mood or being. Yoga is one way to do that. Meditation is another. Consider my options. of food, the media I consume and the amount of exercise I do come into play here for me, and I suppose for you too.I see little distinction between these things and cannabis; When used thoughtfully , they are all pieces of self-care that alter my ordinary state enough to help me function optimally and feel fantastic. “
Applying the file Weed Mother ethos, if cannabis makes the mother happy, it will make everyone happy.
[Read excerpt from Weed Mom by Danielle Simone Brand.]
Melinda Misuraca is a project CBD collaborating writer with a past life as an old school cannabis farmer specializing in CBD-rich crops. His articles have appeared in High Times, Alternet and several other publications.
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